Our Fantasy Wedding!

Hi everyone!

As you might know by now, I got married on 25th November 2017. I thought I’d share some of our photos and the highlights of the day. Perhaps it inspires some of you who are planning your wedding!

Thank you to Swallow-Tail Photography for the beautiful photography and makeup!

We got married at The Moors Castle in Muldersdrift. The wedding was outside, but it was pouring with rain the entire day! Luckily we still managed to have the wedding outside as planned, even though we needed umbrellas and gazebos.

 

My dress is a vintage wedding dress that I picked up at an antique shop. I had it modified by dyeing it (it used to be cream coloured!) and adding black lace details & beadwork to make it more my style. I wore a bustle pad underneath my dress, and wore platform boots to give me some height in a way that I wouldn’t get stuck in mud. My mother made my crown (which I forgot to put on before walking down the isle, oops!) and I made the necklace to match.

My ring is sterling silver with black and white zirconias and was custom designed for me. My husband’s ring is black titanium with a chain pattern detail.

My mother helped me get ready. I didn’t even know that she had rented a dress that matched mine! She didn’t see the dress until on the day, but knew what the colour scheme was of course, as she helped me with arrangements.

My dad of course didn’t think of colour schemes and chose the most random umbrella to walk me down the isle! Behind us you can see the guests sitting under a gazebo.

Our ceremony took place under this beautiful willow tree. Unfortunately because of the rain we had to set up the gazebo under the tree, but it still worked!

My bouquet was made up of dark purple arum lilies, white roses and some filler flowers.

We had a handfasting where we tied an infinity knot that we kept. A tutorial for this knot can easily be found on YouTube.

The kiss!

And now for some of my favourite posed photos:

 

The reception was held at our house. We hired a tent, tables, chairs, glasses, etc and got a guy caters at functions (the food was amazing!). Instead of a cake, we had absolutely beautiful (and delicious) cupcakes that were made by Tascha’s Cakes!

 

I hope you enjoyed looking at some of our wedding photos! Next week the post about our honeymoon will be up – I didn’t want to post about the honeymoon before the wedding!

 

J

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2017 In Review & Plans For 2018

Hi everyone!

My apologies for taking so long to upload this. January has not been kind to me. I’ve been extremely ill twice, and two of my pets have passed away so I have been very depressed. I’ve finally had the time and energy to finish this post. This is just going to be a quick summary of my 2017, and my plans for 2018.

January

January was pretty slow – I just worked, and wrote my last exam for my degree.

February

I went to Red Room with Juan, and teased my hair really big. I really loved this look!

I also got this incredible drawing of myself from Trevor Schuster. Here’s a side by side comparison of the drawing and the photo he used!

I did a shoot with Wasabi Foto that is very different from my usual style, but I love the result!

March

I handed in my leather bound research report on the 3rd!

I won an award for Trevor at Ink & Iron for best half back colour tattoo! Excuse the sunburn! Here’s my tattoo as well, for those of you who haven’t seen it.

I went to a cosplay picnic in my Little Sister cosplay from Bioshock! I had some awesome photos taken there. This one is my favourite.

My husband and I got engaged! We waited to announce it when we got the ring though, as we decided to have a ring custom made.

I also convinced my non-Goth friends to go to Attrition! Look at how gorgeous they looked!

April

I had a stall at Fantasy Fayre and made this skirt so that I could wear a viking inspired outfit!

I went to visit my beautiful friend Neko in Clarens for the weekend and had so much fun! I wish she didn’t live so far.

I had a photoshoot with Taikutsuna Majo, where two of my beloved pets modeled with me. Sadly they are both no longer with us.

At Pagan Freedom Day I shot with a bow for the first time in years!

May

I graduated my Honours Degree in Strategic Brand Communication!

Unfortunately just a few days after my graduation, my dog, Layla, had to be put down. I was heartbroken and it took me months to recover.

I got new synthetic dreads that I put in for a week. I loved this look I did for Geekfest! I had a stall there and it went really well!

I had a lovely day out with my friend Krisne where we went vintage shopping and drank lots of tea! We even stopped by a charity shop that is also a cat sanctuary and I made a new friend!

June

I was very busy with my jewellery business this month! I had 3 stalls and worked very hard to create stock.

I went to ICON to support my fellow stallholders, and got to fight a knight! Look at how ridiculous I look in the armour! It was lots of fun though!

July

I started working at the company I work at!

I also attended the last ever Dark Noise party with Juan. I’m so sad that I don’t have any more Dark Noise parties to look forward to. They were always so much fun.

August

I was very busy with stalls again this month.

We finally had our engagement photos taken! Thank you to Derek Whitton Photography for the beautiful photos.

My grandfather passed away and we went to his funeral.

September

I visited Neko in Clarens for a week to de-stress and have time to make jewellery stock for my biggest market for the year.

I had a stall at a Harry Potter festival and it was extremely busy! Luckily towards the end of the day I managed to take photos with Simone at the photobooth!

It was my birthday and my mother and I went to watch the Gauteng Philharmonic Orchestra perform Disney songs. It was such a fantastic show!

October

It was my biggest market for the year – rAge. I was extremely over-worked but it was worth it. I wore my Little Sister cosplay again and even found a splicer!

November

I had a stall at Discworld Day! I dressed up as Adora Belle Dearheart from Terry Pratchett’s Going Postal. Unfortunately it was extremely hot and I was unable to manage my stall for the majority of the day. Luckily some kind stallholders looked after me and even drove home with me to make sure that I was safe.

It was my kitchen tea and we went to the botanical gardens. I just love the look on my face in this photo. It was the exact moment that I realised that the lingerie I had just opened was from my mother!

We got married! The day did not go according to plan because it was pouring with rain the whole day, but it was still perfect! Thank you to Swallow-Tail Photography for our amazing photos and my beautiful makeup.

The next day we left on honeymoon, which was absolutely incredible. We went to Paris, Venice and Rome! I’ll write a post all about the wedding and honeymoon! I don’t want to spoil too much, but my absolute favourite place we went to was the Paris Catacombs. Here’s my favourite photo I took there:

December

We got back from honeymoon on the 7th December and I was back at work the next day.

I had 2 amazing photoshoots to end off the year. One with Dark Arts Society:

And one with Shyne Photo:

I worked until the 22nd of December and didn’t do much in my time off. Hardly any of the plans I made worked out unfortunately. But I did have a Harry Potter marathon with Bree!

Sadly one our rats, Dovahkiin passed away suddenly around Christmas, followed by my rabbit, Frodo and one of our other rats, Eddie, in the first week of January. As I mentioned in the beginning of this post, the year didn’t start off well for me, but I hope that it gets better.

 

Plans For 2018

This year is going to be a busy one for me.

As I’m now working full time, I have less time for Ayame Designs and for modeling. Because of this, my jewellery business will take preference over modeling. I am going to focus most of my free time on growing Ayame Designs, especially internationally. I have some very exciting new product ranges coming up this year that I will be working on whenever I can. I will no longer be doing smaller markets, as they are not worth my time. The only exception is when it’s an alternative market and it’s not too far to travel. I am also travelling to Cape Town to have a stall at FanCon! This is the first time that I am travelling outside of Pretoria and Johannesburg for a stall so it’s very exciting!

As for my modeling, I will only be taking on work that will result in something amazing and different. I am much more selective about who I work with, and will only be shooting interesting concepts. Unfortunately all the alternative and goth magazines I would like to be published in don’t have themes I would like to shoot, so I will probably only be submitting to open themed issues or magazines this year.

I have just become permanent at my job! This means that I will also be taking on new responsibilities and I am excited to grow in the company. I’ll also be working much harder than perviously, and therefore won’t have as much free time.

I want to commit to writing a blog post at least once every 2 weeks. I am working on a few new posts right now, and also have some ideas for future posts saved. Unfortunately I don’t have as much time as I’d like to film YouTube videos, so I will be focusing on blogging, as I can write little bits at a time when I can, but don’t often have multiple hours free to film and edit videos.

This year I have also decided to cut all negative things out of my life. Whether it’s people who drag me down or things I let happen. I am done letting people or circumstances affect my happiness. I will make more time for people and things that make me happy.

 

I know this is quite a long post! Congrats on making it to the end! PS – My post about my wedding will be up next week, followed by one on my honeymoon.

 

 

J

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How To Make Your Relationship Work

I’ve been with my boyfriend for over two and a half years and we are even more in love than when we started dating. But a relationship is hard work and requires commitment from both parties. I often get asked how we manage to stay so in love, so here are the things (in no particular order) that we think are most important to keep your relationship strong.

 

Honesty is the best policy
Never ever lie to your partner. Be honest with each other from the start and never hide things from them, even if they will hurt them. If you have a problem with something that they do, calmly talk to them about it and also ask them what they don’t like about your habits. The important thing here is to always be honest and to not get angry to quickly if you don’t like what you are hearing. Use it to help you improve yourself and build on your relationship.

 

Be each other’s best friend
What’s the point in being together if you can’t have fun and be silly together? A relationship shouldn’t always be serious. My boyfriend is my best friend in the whole world. We tease each other, have tickle fights, and often do fun activities such as going to arcades, playing PS3 together, playing board games or having picnics. It really makes you feel closer knowing you can do anything together and can tell each other anything.

 

Know what you both want out of the relationship
It doesn’t help entering a relationship and you want a long-term commitment and they just want something temporary. Know where you stand right from the start so you avoid confusion and fights later on in your relationship.

 

Don’t make it revolve around sex
Intimacy is important, but if that’s the only thing keeping you together then there’s a problem. There’s also nothing wrong with not having sex. Don’t do it because you feel like you have to. If you’re not ready, talk to them about it and if they care about you they will wait until you’re ready. If you’re just not in the mood that night, rather be honest than have bad sex.

 

Understand that they aren’t perfect
Don’t get angry with them if they make an honest mistake. They’re only human and have their flaws. You just have to accept them for who they are and love them despite the mistakes they make. This also means mistakes or choices in their past. They can’t change what they did before they met you, so don’t hold it against them.

 

Give them space
Just because you are dating doesn’t mean you should spend every second together. Give them time to spend with their friends or on their own. The same goes for you. Everyone needs to be alone sometimes.

 

These are just a few of the most important things we can think of to make your relationship work. I hope that this helps some couples to strengthen their relationships.

 

J
xx