I’ve been with my boyfriend for over two and a half years and we are even more in love than when we started dating. But a relationship is hard work and requires commitment from both parties. I often get asked how we manage to stay so in love, so here are the things (in no particular order) that we think are most important to keep your relationship strong.
Honesty is the best policy
Never ever lie to your partner. Be honest with each other from the start and never hide things from them, even if they will hurt them. If you have a problem with something that they do, calmly talk to them about it and also ask them what they don’t like about your habits. The important thing here is to always be honest and to not get angry to quickly if you don’t like what you are hearing. Use it to help you improve yourself and build on your relationship.
Be each other’s best friend
What’s the point in being together if you can’t have fun and be silly together? A relationship shouldn’t always be serious. My boyfriend is my best friend in the whole world. We tease each other, have tickle fights, and often do fun activities such as going to arcades, playing PS3 together, playing board games or having picnics. It really makes you feel closer knowing you can do anything together and can tell each other anything.
Know what you both want out of the relationship
It doesn’t help entering a relationship and you want a long-term commitment and they just want something temporary. Know where you stand right from the start so you avoid confusion and fights later on in your relationship.
Don’t make it revolve around sex
Intimacy is important, but if that’s the only thing keeping you together then there’s a problem. There’s also nothing wrong with not having sex. Don’t do it because you feel like you have to. If you’re not ready, talk to them about it and if they care about you they will wait until you’re ready. If you’re just not in the mood that night, rather be honest than have bad sex.
Understand that they aren’t perfect
Don’t get angry with them if they make an honest mistake. They’re only human and have their flaws. You just have to accept them for who they are and love them despite the mistakes they make. This also means mistakes or choices in their past. They can’t change what they did before they met you, so don’t hold it against them.
Give them space
Just because you are dating doesn’t mean you should spend every second together. Give them time to spend with their friends or on their own. The same goes for you. Everyone needs to be alone sometimes.
These are just a few of the most important things we can think of to make your relationship work. I hope that this helps some couples to strengthen their relationships.